Yoga for Singles

In this session, we will purge our bodies of accumulated toxins because we live single in a world where being a couple grants people economic, legal, and social privileges.

Let's start with a short meditation.

Can being single be described as simply a way of being, or is singleness the opposite of being in a couple?

How do we feel in life when we define ourselves not by what we are, but by what we are not?

We focus on these questions.

We judge the other unrelated thoughts that interfere with the flow of our minds, just as we judge couples who walk hand in hand in a narrow space, making it difficult for us to pass.

Deep breath.

We think about that friend of ours whom we know both as a single person and as someone in a relationship.

We remember the time we spent with that friend when they didn't have a partner.

Then we calculate how much they are now absent from our lives since they got a partner.

We turn to new people to share the empty time in between, time we don't yet know how to value.

We realize that our place and importance in a person's life changes according to their relationship with someone else, and we feel bad about ourselves.

Now let's stay with this feeling of worthlessness for a while. 

When we compare our sex lives to those of the couples around us, we fall into the feeling that theirs is more special and deeper than ours.

We become convinced that ours is something that needs to be fixed, driven by motivations such as consumerist pleasure, suppressing loneliness, or escaping reality.

Then we learn about a very basic problem in the sex life of a couple who have been together for many years, something we could never tolerate ourselves.

As we recount even the most graphic details of our sexual experiences, we wonder why we didn't have this information before.

We see the invalidity of the hierarchy of reputation in sexuality that we have created in our minds, and we are grateful for the pleasure, excitement, and adventures we experience.

Our slut body relaxes.

A newly formed couple develops a philosophical approach to love and to building meaningful bonds in life.

Some around you can say out loud that they wish you would also find a partner, yet when you do not like your friends’ partners you are obliged to respect their choices.

These things hurt you, but remember, as you do not know how to form relationships, you avoid conflict and you swallow your pain.

You tolerate the decline in their empathy towards you.

It is not that you can not reconcile because couples are dizzy with the social power they gain when they come together, it is that you lack their emotional capacity.

Now let us give up this tolerance toward friends that our singleness has made chronic within us.

The anger we feel comes not only from the instability of physical contact in our lives, but also from people who become selfish instead of expanding when they find a lover.

Is what they found love or insurance?

A couple we have admired for years breaks up. We listen to one of them speaking about the other.

We forgive ourselves for all the times we blamed ourselves for not being able to build the kind of relationship they had.

When we meet our single friends, we keep talking about dating.

We focus on the perception that we are always living in the stage before the version of life we truly desire.

This is called the hope of finding a partner.

Now we confess to ourselves the thing that makes any person give up 

on becoming our romantic partner: We cannot promise a home to anyone. We are poor.

The person in front of us is attracted to us, yet suppresses their feelings.

We see that they practice restraining themselves in another relationship in order to maintain their open relationship.

We are proud of ourselves for not holding our feelings hostage to anyone.

We face the fact that the number of singles will soon surpass couples. In the new world order our minority victimhood will come to an end. Once we are the majority we will no longer be able to bully couples as freely as we do now.

We remember that these are our last chances to expose their pretenses.

Now, instead of wrecking ourselves with the deprivation of not being inside a couple, we see the dreams we pursue thanks to the time and freedom our singleness grants us, the people we bring into our lives to value each one, not to support the core structure we have built at our center, and the doors opened by the appetite for risk we have cultivated by fearing loneliness in moderation.

We reflect on who can achieve such richness in life while being in a couple.

The couple that comes to our mind is a good couple.

Now, condemning every couple except that one in our hearts, we thank ourselves for the courage to discover and defend who we are. 

When we leave this lesson, we like the photo of a couple who share their relationship on social media, whose post does not irritate us but makes us happy for them.

Namaste.